Au Pair,  Travels

Au Pair: 5 things I’ve learnt

I still remember how my legs were shaking when I was saying goodbye to my parents at the airport. A few minutes later my heart went crazy when I was about to check in. There it was – I was about to become an Au Pair. My very first time when I had to count only for myself, left alone between Okęcie and Heathrow. It was an emotional rollercoaster. And it was only the beginning.

I wrote this post almost two years ago. I decided to publish it, just see how much has changed since I became Au Pair. Spoiler alert: a lot.

Many people have told me that Au Pair is a mistake or even foolishness. Luckily, I had a different opinion. When I was coming back to Poland, I was even more sure about my decision.

When I was leaving, I’ve left my host family a little gift. The most important was an envelope with “What I know” written on it. Inside, it was a letter with more or less 30 sentences about my experiences and lessons that I’ve learned. Some of them were more humorous. (“Ok, onion is not THAT bad”. “You shouldn’t scream and run away from the crowd of angry cows because they might chase you and it’s not very nice”). Some of them were more serious… Take a look! It’s not a post only for (future) Au Pairs. 🙂



My first Au Pair began in 2016. I was only 18 with no previous experience. All my life I was living with my parents, I just graduated High School.

And then, all the sudden, everything changed. Just imagine: you are in a foreign country where everyone speaks a foreign language. You go to your new house to live with your new host parents and just the next day you have to take care of their children.

It might sound a little uninspiring, but for me, such a deep water jump was one of the best things that I could do. It allowed me to understand that… The civilized world is not actually that scary.

Sometimes you can feel paralyzed when you are abroad in a completely unknown city. Shit happens… You lose your wallet and you have to go to the police station, settle your bank account or just ask for directions. At first, you will probably feel the language barrier, you will be scared and stressed. But that’s fine. I’ve learned that sometimes when you have a problem you can just… ask for help. Maybe someone won’t give it to you at once, but friendly people are everywhere and thanks to them, a vision of the great world doesn’t seem so scary anymore.




I remember the first host family offer that I got. It was from an Asian family of Buddhist doctors who lived in Manchester. They had one seven-year-old daughter. My responsibilities would be to take her to school and play a little bit with her after school. Havin’ fun and not doing anything – it seemed perfect!  Everything was going great, I wanted to book the ticket… But then things fucked up. The family had quit the program and went on holiday to New Zealand. And I? I was there hating the world because of the occasion that I’ve missed.

In the end, instead of to Manchester, I moved to Winchester. It was a small town… Nope, wait. I actually arrived at the village about 6 km from the city. What’s more, the buses went like four times per day.

I admit that I choose the family a little bit too quickly. Honestly, the vision of an English village wasn’t very convincing for me. I took the offer only because I was quite desperate but…


This choice turned out to be surprisingly accurate!


Why? Because of a few reasons. First of all, Winchester is such a wonderful and friendly city, that visiting it ALWAYS ended up with me having a great humour. There are the most cordial people there! I don’t know the antonym of  “overwhelming”, but that’s how I would define this city.

Besides this, the place that I used to live in, was just stunning. Typical British village with amazing views and paths. (In which I got lost a few times… #typicalAlicja). I really enjoyed just walking around with headphones in my ears. It was so relaxing! Sitting on the tree next to the river was also a nice experience. At least as long as the cows don’t get there.

Conclusion? Well, nothing new that my dreams about metropolitan city didn’t come true. That’s what usually happens in my life. In this case tho, I never regretted that I live in Winchester. And believe me – if you ever visit it, you’ll understand why!


My Au Pair adventure wasn’t perfect.

Not. At. All.

There was a lot of crying and sadness. I didn’t always get along well with the monsters children. But that’s fine – I think we all know that it’s never gonna be perfect, right?

After all, I used to think that despite the bad moments, life there is just easier, and I’m happier. Probably because I was getting a weekly cash, which I didn’t have to spend on rent or food. Primark has become my second home and clothes, cosmetics or food I was buying like crazy. I started to drink coffee in the fancy coffee shops, although I never did it in Poland. I had that stupid thinking that material things make me feel happy. For that reason, Au Pair was like a paradise.

Coming back to the reality wasn’t easy. During the first days or even weeks,  it seemed to me that it would never be as good as it was then, in the UK. However, I quickly remembered that it wasn’t dependent on the place. It definitely wasn’t a  paradise! Well, since I was able to appreciate the life then, why can’t do it I now?

The coffee tastes just great – whether it’s England or my hometown.


During my first weeks in England, I was very afraid of lonely journeys. Once I wanted to visit Oxford, but none of my friends could accompany me at that time. I wanted to give up this idea at all, but fortunately, my host mom convinced me to go alone.

Many of my travels around England were lonely. For example, during bank holiday I went to the seaside (Bournemouth & Swanage) all alone. I had to deal with several problems and adventures there. Typically for me, I forgot two very important things back then: the pin for the card and the adapter. So I had only 15Ł in cash for three days and a phone with almost dead battery, preventing me from contacting my host family. I had a dilemma: make beautiful photos or save the battery in case something bad happens. Well… The photos are actually quite nice. Anyway… If I had a friend next to me, I’d be calmer for sure. However, thanks to this, I was forced to take care of myself and deal with everything on my own. And somehow, I managed to do it. I got home with a charged phone, and even I saved a pound.

In addition, I had the opportunity to sit alone on a high cliff and the view was… Well, see it by yourself:


But sometimes I felt lonely

Mainly because I lived outside the city, where the average age of the residents was about 50+.

As I mentioned before, I really liked going for walks around my village.  And although I didn’t mind spending time alone, sometimes I had the feeling that I’d like to have someone next to my side. I enjoyed the views thinking that I’d like to be with someone right now… Just a friend who would watch that stupid flowers and sunset with me.

So when it comes to travelling, you need to figure it out by yourself whether you feel better spending time alone or with someone else.  In my case? Organizing a trip, looking for accommodation, connections, and later tours around the city was a valuable experience that taught me… well, not being a loser in life. Besides, I also came to the conclusion that loneliness is sometimes needed. Just to experience everything around you by yourself. However, I can’t deny that some things are worth to share with another person.


Like I said, I visited the city only on the weekends. Due to that, I had fewer opportunities to meet other Au Pair. It doesn’t mean, of course, that I didn’t meet with them at all. They were nice girls, but they aren’t the main reason for this note.

The people I met in Winchester were from all over the world. I befriended with several Spanish guys, Germans, Italians and, of course, British people. Some of my friends were also from Brazil, the Philippines, Nepal, Pakistan and even Syria.

Naturally, not all of them were close to me. However, it doesn’t change the fact that I could learn a lot from them. Well, think about how much you really know about, for example, the Philippines or Nepal? I didn’t know much and I’m really happy that I could get to know their country a little.

Most of them were much older than me.

Back then, I didn’t really like it. Now I appreciate the fact that I met more people who were not necessarily my age. For example, Heliana, who is probably the most positive person I have ever met. So far, I am surprised that a woman who is 48 years old, behaves like a twenty-year-old. I consider this as a great thing, of course! She even went shopping with me on my penultimate day in the UK.

There were more amazing people. My host dad’s mother whose husband fought in the Warsaw Uprising. My neighbour from Philipines, who told me about their political situation. Parents of my host mom – a former diplomat and an author of over a dozen books about gardening. An elderly gentleman whose hobby was to learn languages – so I helped him with Polish. And many others, sometimes ordinary, but extremely warm people, thanks to whom this adventure was also “educational”.

To sum up

I can’t believe that it’s been almost 3 years since I took a part in the Au Pair program. Looking at this post right now, I feel like so many things have changed. Something that used to scare me back then is something natural right. Actually, thanks to Au Pair I could manage a lot.


Graduated journalism, wandering around Europe. Heart in Spain, body in the Netherlands. Survived an attack of angry cows.

Graduated journalism, wandering around Europe. Heart in Spain, body in the Netherlands. Survived an attack of angry cows.

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